Last Friday I sent my 2 nephews an email regarding their mother... The day marked the first anniversary of her 'passing'. Is there a better word without sounding too definite yet being realistic at the same time? They're doing okay, but how is life ever the same?
Hi......
It's been a year since mum left us...... She was a great mother, daughter and sister that were dear to all of us......
Although our lives have somewhat seemed to have returned to normal 1 year after her departure, it's often the times when we are away from our daily hustle and busy lifestyles that her absence comes to our hearts......
Seldom does a day go by where I would wish that she was still here with us, her voice the way she called us ‘hello son…” that voice still echoes in my head and I will never forget that......
If only she was still here how great that would be...... I often think if she was still here what would she be doing......? Till this day I still remember the last moments we spent with her and all the discomfort she was going through, but as sick and uncomfortable as she was she we never heard her complain a single time and even till the very last moments she was still smiling and looking out for us. And before she finally left us, she opened her eyes to look at us one last time and grasped our hands...... that was the last time I don’t think I will ever forget that moment…
Every time I look at the album Uncle Robert made, it brings back all the fond memories that we all spent together – that is all we have now, memories and we must never forget them.
Having mum depart and leave us like this has been quite a shock; never would I have thought that something like this would happen to me. We hear stories of people/friends falling sick and passing away around us but seldom do we think that it will happen to someone so close to us.
I often wonder what governs how much time we have, is there someone out there that determines how much time we have or is it the way we live our life, our lifestyle and our choices that determines how much time we have...... One thing I have learnt is to cherish those around you, never depart on a grudge as you may never know when is the last time you will see them...... As when there time comes and you don’t get to see them again you may live in guilt for the rest of your life…..
Life is precious and cherish those around you......
Take Care......
Osmond
Medina is survived by her 2 beloved sons, Osmond and Alex, and her husband. I've attached the email from Osmond here... The email's been deleted yet his words will live on. This past weekend my mom made special dishes to offer to her, it was a nice remembrance and a celebration of life. We just cried on our own.
This morning right after I read the 2 email from my nephews, I read another from a friend of mine. Subject: My Mother. Found out that my friend's mom went to the ER this past weekend, had a cat scan to realized that she has cancer in her pancreas and it's been spreading to her liver.They said a year. Such tragic news. He wrote back this morning, her time is now 6 months.
I apologize for posting such depressing news. One truly never realizes such calamity until it hits close to home. I promise the next post will be a much happier one. Take care everyone. May peace and good health go out to all.
Comments (11)
Wow, your sister was beautiful! Osmond's email was very sweet and king. Just like his Uncle Robert.
Thanks for the kind words Dr.P. Well with you and I, takes one to know one! :-)
Posted by Dr.P | July 27, 2007 10:22 PM
Posted on July 27, 2007 22:22
Ah, your sister was so beautiful! She obviously did a fantastic job raising her sons - that was very well said.
Big Hugs,
D-Man
Thank you D-Man. She was something else! A funny lady, too, with a heart of gold!
Posted by D-Man | July 26, 2007 10:34 PM
Posted on July 26, 2007 22:34
I've lost family members, mostly elders, and it affected me, but I never knew the importance of keeping a loved one's memory current and cherished until I met my Mark. He lost his sister to breast cancer about 5 years ago, and it is amazing how much his family openly keep her in their thoughts in a very positive way. It is heartwarming and eye-opening. You're a good man for doing the same. Thanks for reminding us how important it is.
We all remember our loved ones in our own unique ways. Some keep to themselves and some celebrate more openly. We might not see them, but they never disappear.
I commented on your B&B entry, but it never got posted! waaaaaaa! Thanks again for visiting Sandy. :-) xoxo
Posted by sandy | July 24, 2007 5:18 PM
Posted on July 24, 2007 17:18
Take care too Robert, and thank you
You too, Mike! xoxo
Posted by mike.w | July 24, 2007 5:09 AM
Posted on July 24, 2007 05:09
A beautiful letter - thanks for letting us see it. And I'm very sorry for your friend and his Mom. Very sad.
Thanks dantallion [sorry, I read your blog, but I don't see your name! heh!]. Life seems tragic beautifully so doesn't it? Thanks for dropping by my friend.
Posted by dantallion | July 24, 2007 4:39 AM
Posted on July 24, 2007 04:39
Very beautiful. It made me cry :) I'm sorry for your loss. You're sister's gorgeous. I'm glad your family is close; and supporting one another.
Thanks Steve. Her kids were everything to her! Never easy is it? It never is and never will. *big hugs*
Posted by diamondfistwerny | July 23, 2007 11:15 PM
Posted on July 23, 2007 23:15
that was lovely; thank you
xoxo! Thanks for dropping by Urspo.
Posted by Urspo | July 23, 2007 6:48 PM
Posted on July 23, 2007 18:48
What a beautiful letter - openly addresses the issues and tackles the feelings in a loving and kind way - a truly beautiful letter.
A letter to mother can hardly go wrong. :-) Thanks Spider. Like everyone have said already, I'm glad you're writing again!! xoxo
Posted by Spider | July 23, 2007 6:34 PM
Posted on July 23, 2007 18:34
This seems to be the month for bad health news. I hope your friend's mothe will be okay. Take care!!!
Thanks Greg. Crossing fingers for all our loved ones!!!
Posted by Greg | July 23, 2007 4:36 PM
Posted on July 23, 2007 16:36
What beautiful words....and I love the picture. She was so pretty! Hugs and loves to you. I know full well how difficult "anniversaries" can be.
I chose this particular picture for the cover on the photo books that I sent out to my nephews. Her reflection looking at us in the mirror, to me, it symbolizes that she's there, yet she isn't... A mirrored image can give different meanings. Thanks Lewis, yeah, these "anniversaries" are always difficult, but a good remembrance!
Posted by Lewis | July 23, 2007 3:23 PM
Posted on July 23, 2007 15:23
"I often wonder what governs how much time we have, is there someone out there that determines how much time we have or is it the way we live our life,..."
I asked myself this same question over and over again 7 years ago when my mother passed...
I hope your nephews will always find meaning and momentum to carry on the good traditions their mother have planted in them.
Thanks for the kind words Matt. 7 years ago! You were probably around the same age as my nephews now! *hugs*
Posted by Matt | July 23, 2007 2:35 PM
Posted on July 23, 2007 14:35